Humping aware

I do not believe Bristol Palin’s pregnancy should be a topic for discussion by the presidential candidates. Teen pregnancy and teen sex in general, yes. However, as an ordinary citizen, one to whom I believe Sarah Palin’s ordinariness is supposed to be positively directed, I do believe we have the right to discuss her moral values (and why they seem to be rather left of what I assume is her usual right-wing stance). I take issue more with the fact that her child opted to have unprotected sex in Alaska (where the chlamydia incidence rate is astronomical) than I do with how and what morals are taught in the Palin household. Surely Bristol had to know the STD rate. One must imagine she did — her mama’s the governor. There had to have been some discussion about this.

But wait. Maybe there wasn’t. That could be the problem! Sarah Palin believes in teaching abstinence. Ummmmm, that didn’t work in her own house. How/why does she believe it will be successful for our country? I will admit that my own mother never had “the talk” with me. My memories from adolescence were 1) believing you could get pregnant by kissing and therefore refusing to play hide and go get it because there could very well be kissing involved, and 2) my mother’s seemingly daily mantra from the time I hit ninth grade: “I’m not raising anybody else’s baby and I will kill you if you bring one in here.”

I had enough friends with kids in high school, friends that weren’t getting enough sleep, friends that could no longer go to parties, friends that were essentially dominated by their “mistake.” I am not saying abortion is the answer, or that abstinence is going to be adopted and practiced by everyday teenagers. See, I was a fluke. Those sex ed videos scared the let’s do it out of me, so the fact that I wasn’t pregnant in high school, or shortly thereafter for that matter, is more directly related to fright (of the pictures of a woman’s herpes-ravaged vagina and of my mother beating me beyond facial recognition). What I truly believe is we can keep our daughters from making such adverse life decisions by talking to them about sex and expectations early, by talking to them often about their lives, what’s going on at school, what their friends are doing, whether there’s peer pressure to do anything. Don’t ever believe that your child isn’t listening to you or that your words do no good. It’s like that commercial: Parents – the anti drug.

Thinking ahead, my youngest daughter follows her older sister in virtually every instance. She is her own person, mind you, but when it comes to wanting to emulate someone, she chooses her sister before she chooses me or anyone else. Her sister is “fashion” (not fashionable, which grates on my nerves — her noun misusage), her sister is what she aspires to be when she’s bigger (which of course is what all five-year-olds aspire to…being the “bigger” age of their big sister). But, what happens when Bristol’s younger sister sees the cute cute baby and wants one of her very own?

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